This is a question I recently asked and the responses boiled down to 4 key things.
If any of these barriers get in your way, join me for the Margin Maker workshop. We'll help you get clear on your priorities, learn how to say "no," create a plan, shift your mindset and help you establish margin (which means you have to create healthy boundaries) for the long haul. Enrollment ends April 16th at 6:00p CT. Learn more HERE.
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Have you ever experienced pushback in ministry? Have people reacted negatively to the changes that you are making? They don't like it and they're letting you know that they don't like it! That may seem like a silly question. Of course we have experienced pushback...and if you haven’t yet, don’t worry...it’s coming!
Pushback happens.. Pushback is normal.
What should you do when someone opposes or complains about the changes you are making?
Change is a stressor (even good change).
People resist change.
Resistance creates friction, otherwise known as conflict. And we typically avoid conflict. But there is such a thing as healthy conflict. It is important to reframe your thinking that pushback is bad. You’ve got to remind yourself this is normal and it can be good. Healthy conflict helps create a healthy culture and healthy people with healthy relationships.
You want to make some changes. There are some good, healthy boundaries that you know will help you lead and live better but you just can’t seem to gain momentum. I want to share with you 4 progress killers that keep you from making the changes you want.
We wait for just the right time before we make changes. We decide to wait until things slow down. We think it’ll be easier once we push through this busy season, or once a certain obligation is finished. We wait until things are perfect! But guess what? It’ll never be perfect! There will never be a perfect time. If you don’t put in the boundaries you need, new obligations and new seasons of busyness will steal your space and margin.
Many of us approach change and progress with an all or nothing attitude. If there is just one time we can imagine when the boundary or rhythm won’t work, we don’t even try! We...
Have you asked yourself, "When will things go back to normal?" Me too. But honestly, I don't think we want to go back to normal. Normal was too busy. Normal left us on the edge of burnout. Normal had us running around from one thing to the next. It's hard to remember our unhealthy patterns now because of COVID-19, but we don't want to go back. So, now what? Now you have an opportunity to decide who you want to be on the other side of this pandemic and redefine your normal.
Be a person of action and get your copy of the Redefining Normal Starter Guide.
If it's true that what you believe will directly impact the decisions that you make, and influence the outcome of your situation, (which I do agree with), then it is critical to check-in with ourselves, paying particular attention to the places where we are struggling.
Most women in ministry would not say they are thriving. Many feel as if it is all that they can do to get through the day. They are in survival mode, burned out, and depleted. Talking with these women reveals that many, if not most, are believing a lie that is keeping them from thriving.
According to dictionary.com, a lie is "a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood."
Now, if you're like me, you might be thinking that you are too savvy and wise to fall prey to assertions designed to mislead you. But that's the thing about deception. It is subtle and unassuming. It creeps in, disguising the lies as reasonable...expected, yet in reality, untrue. And when we build...
Do you feel pressed against the edge every single day? Are you burned out because the pace of ministry is unsustainable? Do you have a hard time maintaining healthy boundaries? You are not alone.
As a female pastor, I was overwhelmed with all there was to do in ministry. I had very little blank space on my calendar. I would run from one thing to the next and I’m just going to be totally honest with you…I was so tired. I felt it. I felt it physically in my body, it impacted my mind and I sensed it in my spirit…maybe you do too. In fact, I know I’m not alone. I’ve had countless conversations with other women in ministry who have shared that they too feel overwhelmed and discouraged as they try to manage it all. Many of us feel like it’s all we can do to show up and survive another day. And we feel defeated because we have resigned ourselves to the idea that this is just the way it’s going to be.
And worst of all, we keep it all under wraps....